Discreet dating for married people in San Antonio

Who you'll meet, and what it costs

Joining, building a profile and browsing are free; reading and replying to messages needs a paid membership, and the prices page lists the options. Prices are in US dollars. Checkout shows the billing name that will appear on your card statement, and memberships renew until you cancel in Settings > Billing. You must be 18 or over to join. Because profiles are shared with partner sites in the same network, some people you hear from will have joined through another site.

The law in Texas

Adultery is not a crime in Texas. It does still matter in divorce. A Texas court can grant a divorce "without regard to fault" if the marriage has become insupportable (Family Code section 6.001), but adultery is also a ground in its own right (section 6.003). Texas family lawyers note that in a fault-based divorce, a judge can take infidelity into account when dividing community property. This isn't legal advice; if either of you is considering divorce, speak to a Texas family lawyer first.

Sexual health in San Antonio

San Antonio Metropolitan Health District (Metro Health) runs an STI mobile clinic that travels around the city. It provides testing and treatment for most STIs at no cost to the individual. Its HIV Prevention Program offers HIV testing and referrals for PrEP. Check the city's STI mobile clinic page for where the unit will be.

The CDC's GetTested finder at gettested.cdc.gov lists other free and low-cost testing near you, and our guide to sexual health with a new partner covers what to test for and when.

If someone tries to scam or threaten you

• The FTC, at ReportFraud.ftc.gov, for romance scams and other fraud.
• The FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center, at ic3.gov, for online fraud and sextortion.
• 911 if you are in danger or a crime is happening now.
• StopNCII.org if someone threatens to share intimate images: it lets an adult create a digital fingerprint of an image on their own device so participating platforms can find and remove copies.

Don't send money or more photos. Keep the messages and report the profile through our help centre. The guide to scams and blackmail explains how these schemes usually run.

Talking to someone

If you want to talk it through, a licensed marriage and family therapist will see individuals as well as couples. If you are struggling, call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, at any time. Our page on getting support lists more places to turn.

Before you meet

Our safety page and the guide to meeting safely cover first meetings, and the discretion page explains what the site shows and sends: the billing name, account emails and who can see your profile.