Married Dating in the US: What to Know

In short

Marital Affair is a discreet dating site for married and attached adults, with the US one of its two main countries. Joining and browsing are free; messaging is paid, in US dollars. Members must be 18, or 21 in Alabama, Mississippi, Nebraska and Wyoming. A few states still have adultery laws. Report scams to the FTC at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.

Key facts
Minimum age	18; 21 in Alabama, Mississippi, Nebraska and Wyoming
Card statement	The billing name shown at checkout
Report a scam	FTC at ReportFraud.ftc.gov
Online fraud and sextortion	FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center, ic3.gov
Find a free STI test	CDC GetTested, gettested.cdc.gov

Prices are in dollars, and checkout shows the billing name

Joining, creating a profile, browsing and receiving interest are free. Reading and replying to messages needs a paid membership, and the current options are on the prices page. Prices are shown in US dollars, so US cards are charged without a currency conversion.

Checkout shows the billing name that will appear on your card statement. Every membership renews automatically until you cancel it in Settings > Billing.

The age rule depends on your state

You must be 18 or over to join Marital Affair. In Alabama, Mississippi, Nebraska and Wyoming the minimum is 21.

Is adultery a crime? It depends on the state

There is no federal adultery law, and most states have repealed theirs. A minority still have one on the books. Here is where things stand in the seven states that hold the ten biggest US cities:

State	Adultery a crime?	Divorce
Arizona	Yes: class 3 misdemeanour, prosecuted only on a spouse's complaint	No-fault (irretrievably broken), except covenant marriages
California	No	No-fault only (irreconcilable differences)
Florida	"Living in an open state of adultery" is a second-degree misdemeanour	No-fault (irretrievably broken)
Illinois	Yes, where the conduct is "open and notorious": Class A misdemeanour	No-fault only (irreconcilable differences)
New York	No: repealed in November 2024	No-fault (six months' irretrievable breakdown); adultery still a listed ground
Pennsylvania	No	Mutual consent after 90 days, or a year apart; adultery still a fault ground
Texas	No	Insupportability (no-fault), or fault grounds including adultery

Each city guide below explains the rules for that state in more detail, with the statute. None of this is legal advice; if divorce is on the table, speak to a family lawyer in your state first.

Reporting scams and blackmail

The FTC, at ReportFraud.ftc.gov, for romance scams, money requests and fraud.
The FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center, at ic3.gov, for online fraud and sextortion.
Your bank, straight away, if you've paid or shared card details.
911 if you are in danger.

If someone threatens to share intimate images unless you pay, don't pay and don't keep talking. Keep the evidence and report the profile through the help centre. StopNCII.org lets adults create a digital fingerprint of an intimate image on their own device so participating platforms can find and remove copies, without uploading the image itself. Our safety page covers the warning signs, and scams and blackmail explains how these schemes usually work.

Free and low-cost STI testing

Most city and county health departments run free or low-cost sexual health clinics, and the CDC's GetTested finder at gettested.cdc.gov lists testing sites by zip code. Each city guide below names the local public clinic, what it costs and whether you need an appointment. Our guide to sexual health with a new partner covers what to test for and when.

City guides

Local guides for the ten largest US cities by population (US Census Bureau, July 2024): the state law, the public sexual health clinic and where to report trouble.

Privacy

Profiles are shared with partner sites in the same network, so members who joined elsewhere can see yours. The discretion page explains what the site shows and sends, and the profile privacy guide helps with photos and wording.

Questions people ask

Is adultery illegal in the US?

There's no federal law against it, but some states still have one. Of the states covered on this page, Arizona, Florida and Illinois still have adultery offences in their criminal codes, while New York repealed its law in November 2024. California, Pennsylvania and Texas don't treat adultery as a crime.

Does adultery matter in a US divorce?

It depends on the state. California, Florida, Illinois and Arizona (outside covenant marriages) grant divorces without anyone proving fault. Texas, Pennsylvania and New York also have no-fault routes but still list adultery as a ground, and in Texas fault can be weighed when property is divided.

Who do I report a romance scam to?

The Federal Trade Commission at ReportFraud.ftc.gov, and the FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center at ic3.gov for online fraud and sextortion. Call your bank straight away if you've paid, and 911 if you're in danger.

How old do I have to be to join?

18, or 21 if you live in Alabama, Mississippi, Nebraska or Wyoming.

Keep reading

Is Marital Affair legit? Who runs it and what you payWho runs Marital Affair, how long it has existed, what it costs and what is and isn't checked.
Thinking about an affair? Questions to ask yourself firstWhat you want, what you could lose, who else is affected: questions worth asking before an affair, and where to get support.
Scams, blackmail and fake profiles on affair sitesRomance fraud, sextortion and fake profiles: the warning signs, what to do and where to report it.
What affair dating sites cost, and how billing worksMemberships, credits, trials and extras: what affair sites cost, how renewal works and what your statement shows.

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Checked 9 November 2026. Spotted something out of date? Tell us.