Discreet dating for married people in Birmingham

Who you'll meet, and what it costs

Joining, building a profile and browsing are free; reading and replying to messages needs a paid membership, and the prices page has the options. Checkout shows the billing name before you pay. Prices have so far been shown in US dollars, so your bank converts the charge. Members in Birmingham are part of Marital Affair's UK membership, and because profiles are shared with partner sites in the same network, some people you hear from will have joined elsewhere.

Sexual health: Umbrella, free and confidential

In Birmingham and Solihull, NHS sexual health services run under one name: Umbrella, delivered by University Hospitals Birmingham NHS Foundation Trust. Umbrella describes its services as free, accessible and confidential, covering contraception and STI testing and treatment, and it is open to everyone.

You can order a free STI kit, take the samples at home and post them back, or book a clinic visit, where a nurse or doctor will usually treat any infection on the spot. Umbrella's service locator lists clinics, GPs and pharmacies, and its phone line is 0121 237 5700. Condoms are free from Umbrella clinics and pharmacies. Our guide to sexual health with a new partner explains what to test for and when.

If someone tries to scam or threaten you

• Report Fraud, at reportfraud.police.uk or on 0300 123 2040, for romance fraud and sextortion.
• West Midlands Police on 999 in an emergency, or 101 if it isn't urgent.
• The Revenge Porn Helpline if intimate images have been shared or someone is threatening to share them.

Don't send money or more photos, keep the evidence and report the profile through our help centre. The guide to scams and blackmail shows how these approaches usually unfold.

The law in England

Adultery is not a crime anywhere in the UK, and in England a divorce no longer needs a reason: no-fault divorce has been the law in England and Wales since 6 April 2022, and couples can apply jointly. The UK page sets out the rules in each nation, and our guide to separation and divorce goes further. None of this is legal advice; speak to a family solicitor before acting.

Talking to someone

Relate's counselling is mostly online, for individuals as well as couples, with fees set by household income. Samaritans are on 116 123, day or night. More options are on our getting support page.

Before you meet

Our safety page and the guide to meeting safely cover first meetings, and the discretion page explains what the site shows and sends: the billing name, account emails and who can see your profile.