Discreet dating for married people in Edinburgh

Who you'll meet, and what it costs

Joining, building a profile and browsing are free; reading and replying to messages needs a paid membership, and the prices page has the options. Checkout shows the billing name before you pay. Prices have so far been shown in US dollars, so your bank converts the charge. Members in Edinburgh are part of Marital Affair's UK membership, and because profiles are shared with partner sites in the same network, some people you hear from will have joined elsewhere.

Sexual health: the Chalmers Centre

NHS Lothian's sexual and reproductive health service for Edinburgh and the Lothians is based at the Chalmers Sexual Health Centre, 2A Chalmers Street, EH3 9ES; buses 23, 27, 35, 45, 47 and N27 stop close by. Book on 0131 536 1070 or online. If you have no symptoms, use its No Talk Testing pages to book an STI test.

One difference from much of England: NHS Lothian says it is currently unable to offer home sampling kits, so plan on a clinic visit. Our guide to sexual health with a new partner explains what to test for and when.

If someone tries to scam or threaten you

Report Fraud covers England, Wales and Northern Ireland, so in Edinburgh:

• Police Scotland on 101 for fraud, sextortion or threats, or 999 if you are in danger.
• The Revenge Porn Helpline for intimate image abuse. Sharing or threatening to share intimate images is an offence in Scotland under the Abusive Behaviour and Sexual Harm (Scotland) Act 2016.

Keep the evidence and report the profile through our help centre. The guide to scams and blackmail shows the warning signs.

Scotland's divorce law

Adultery is not a crime in Scotland, but it does still have a place in divorce law. A Scottish divorce is granted when a marriage has broken down irretrievably, shown in one of four ways: adultery, unreasonable behaviour, one year living apart with your spouse's consent, or two years apart without it. That is different from England and Wales, where no reason is needed. The UK page compares the rules across the UK. None of this is legal advice; speak to a solicitor before acting.

Talking to someone

Relationships Scotland offers counselling and family mediation across Scotland; its InfoLine is 0345 119 2020. Samaritans answer on 116 123. Our getting support page lists more.

Before you meet

Our safety page and the guide to meeting safely cover first meetings, and the discretion page explains what the site shows and sends: the billing name, account emails and who can see your profile.