How to construct that first message

Posted by Marital Affair

The most intimidating and often biggest challenge when you are looking to hook up on an adult dating site like Marital Affair USA is the initial first contact. If you get it wrong you could be left struggling behind the rest of the pack. There are several pointers that you can follow to ensure that you at least get a response from your prospective partner.

After a recent study conducted by ourselves, we asked 300 female and 250 male Americans who are active members of our site for their views and opinions on that dreaded first message. Here we have taken the data and come up with a helpful guide on how to construct that opening message.

Avoid Generic Messages

Don’t be a copy/paste guy. I know, it’s easy and you can cover so many more bases just by sending out a non-descript and vague message to as many girls or guys as possible. This shotgun technique just isn’t cool, and certainly doesn’t appeal to the majority of female users that we have interviewed. 97% of our female users all claimed that they could spot a generic copy and paste effort from the rest of the bunch; first time, every time. So stop it!

Now with some hope somewhere down the line you’re going to be talking to this girl, so why not actually read her profile. Profiles are there for one reason, to share a little bit of information about yourself and your interests. They are an absolute GOLDMINE of information for you to prospect and form a well thought out and personal message for the girl you are looking to meet up with. This method never fails to impress.

Set The Tone

The initial contact is the foundation of what’s to come in the process of hooking up on Marital Affair USA. It is important to set the tone for the rest of the conversation and potential relationship (in whatever form that takes). Having a plan before you fire out an email to your prospective partner is extremely important in making sure that you get off to a good start and don’t get overlooked. Coming on too strong can be a real turn off, however if you aren’t interesting or at least a little funny you can also be put to the bottom of the pile, it’s a fine balancing act.

What’s In A Greeting?

“Hey Sexy”, “Hey babe!!! Xoxoxoxox”, “Sup girl!! You’re H….O…T! XXX”. Come on now dudes, really? Let’s think about this for a second. When crafting your intro message let’s maybe give the girl the impression that you aren’t a total creep. If you follow our advice you too will have success and maybe a few more messages in your inbox next time you check!

  • Just try a simple ‘hey’ – Not every woman finds being called ‘sexy’ or ‘baby’ much of a turn on.
  • Use that gold you mined from their profile. Do they have their real name? Use it!
  • Don’t just use a corny one-liner. Give them a reason to reply, brains also enjoy being stimulated you know.
  • Compliments – This shouldn’t need explaining people!
Things To Avoid with adult dating

As good as it is to write all the right things, and do your research into a user you like the look of, it’s equally important to ensure that you don’t write one small thing that could blow everything.

  • Brush up on your spelling and grammar – No one wants an idiot.
  • Serious subjects – Don’t go discussing the latest changes to a congressional bill.
  • Drug use – Not everyone appreciates your recreational activities
  • Shop – You may love your job, others likely wont.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that you are looking to hook up for some casual sex or intimate encounter. You are not after a new life partner but you have to ensure that you are interesting to the other person, talk about casual things, get to know each other, and who knows? You may be getting to know each other more intimately very soon!

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